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I disapprove of Dr. Clark's advice. Almost everything she has to say on the subject of romance and relationships grates on my equalitarian nerves. By the same virtue, I dislike what R. Don Steele has to say, too.
So why publish their advice columns? It's about reality.
After 30 years of pop feminist inspired gender norming, the reality of sexual relationships in America is, most women are far more susceptible to abusers, jerks, braggarts, wife beaters, cheaters, leeches, lechers, louses and wretches than at perhaps any other time in American history.
From rat pack bad boys to prime time wrestling, women go damp in the panties over swaggering, violent men. As George Gilder noted in Men and Marriage, our society in general, and American women in particular, are "utterly preoccupied with" aggressive masculinity.
Young women with "self esteem issues" subrogate themselves in self-destructive sexual relationships with creeps and low lifes. Men who might otherwise be inclined to behave well see this and, wanting for the warmth of a woman, emulate the badness too many women now prize.
The pop feminists prey on this, seizing the vulgarity and prevalence of what they define as rape to amplify the lies that vilify, demonize and denigrate men.
We know their loudly repeated big lies. We know their bigotry and hateful agenda. And we know how these contribute to the problems between women and men, children, families and society. What few see is how much so many men have changed, while so many women have remained essentially unchanged but for their bad will toward men.
In their columns, Clark and Steele reflect the reality of the modern woman's psychology. We can ignore that, sit in our pristine ivory towers and justify our loneliness with smug thoughts of how close our masculinity is to the equalitarian ideal, and so live to die alone, or we can acknowledge the reality then either embrace or seek to change it.
More than 30 years ago, feminists demanded men change, and millions did. More than 20 years ago, a few feminists said women should change, and a few women did. But most women changed in ways even the pop feminists did not anticipate, often for the worse. Know the truth and it will set you free, or ignore the truth and be a slave to ignorance.
Clark's and Steele's articles observations are about as deserving of criticism as an erupting volcano. We can rage against the volcano and defy the gas, ash and lava it spews, or learn from it and adapt to mitigate or turn its destructive power to our benefit. Likewise, Clark and Steele have something to teach us, if only we are willing to learn.
Jama Clark, Ph.D. is a certified marriage and family therapist and a nationally recognized expert on mating, interpersonal relationships and evolutionary psychology. Her work has been featured on talk shows around the country. Her controversial book, What the Hell Do Women Really Want , is available through Amazon.com.
R. Don Steele, owner of Steel Balls Press, trained with Nathaniel Branden and is the author of How to Date Young Women, Body Language Secrets, and the soon to be released Prostate Cancer, Truth and Facts.
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