In this column I pose questions and raise issues. I don't always agree with the conclusion, implied or stated. The purpose is to put a slightly different spin on each item and to promote discussion.

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• If infidelity is primarily a "male problem," then who are men committing infidelity with?

• In the feminist paradigm, a man who hates women is a misogynist, a man who fears women, a loser; a woman who fears men is a victim, a woman who hates men, empowered.

• Who determines whose perspectives are invalid?

• Who decides whose experiences are not meaningful?

• According to anecdotal evidence (the kind feminists base so many of their statistics on), sex between adult women and teen age boys is fairly common. Seldom, however, do they get caught, and rarely get in trouble for it. That's why Mary Kay LeTourneau got on the cover of People magazine. Not because she's guilty of statutory rape, nor even because she got pregnant (we've seen that before), but because she was prosecuted and imprisoned for it.

• Years ago, feminist lawyer Gloria Allred won a lawsuit against Mary Kay LeTourneau's father, John Schmitz, for calling her a "butch lawyeress." Even attorneys are offended when you call them a lawyer (or lawyeress).

• It's easy to confuse social activity with having a life.

• Any complaints feminists raise will eventually be adopted by other segments of the population, including men. There is no such thing as a "women-only" issue.

• American men are in denial; they confuse envy and anti male bigotry with enlightenment and equality.

• Microsoft's marketing strategy for Front Page: if we sell it and you buy it, your ISP will provide technical support for it. They're not wrong...yet.

• Why should President Clinton apologize to the children of the people who sold their countrymen into slavery because some of those slaves were shipped to America?

• Several weeks ago I consented to do another taped radio interview for public radio. After the way Caroline Leary altered what I said for a taped interview on All Things Considered in 1995, I was reluctant, but the host assured me this would not happen. The subject was housecleaning - men's "inferior" standard vs. women's "superior" standard. During the course of the interview, his questions led in the direction of cultural comparisons and, being an American Indian, naturally I drew from my own background. They have not aired the interview. Even public radio is reluctant to assert white women's standards are superior to American Indian standards.

• Feminists loudly assert men in general, and white men in particular, are laden with unearned privileges which need be remedied with "level playing field" programs such as Affirmative Action. When called upon to enumerate these privileges, however, they respond instead with a long list of ways in which most women are not privileged. Lacking a privilege does not automatically posit that privilege with somebody else. Maybe nobody has it.

• It's one thing to want what's rightfully yours, it's another to get yours by taking what rightfully belongs to someone else.

• According to author Shere Hite, half of all women fear commitment.

• With tremendous marketing effort, Windows NT captures about half the web server market; with no marketing, Unix and Linux retain about half the web server market. Illustrates how much quality matters. Kinda makes you wonder why it doesn't matter more.

• One reason many blacks hate American Indians is, insofar as American Indians are concerned, black is just another shade of white.

• In the feminist paradigm, if a woman takes offense at something a man does or says, it doesn't matter if there was nothing at all sexual about it, it's sexual harassment. Out of fear, employers agree.

• If women are so weak and men so powerful, then why do so many employers fear women more than men?

• Animals learn through experience; humans have additional means. Those who will not be taught by other than experience need guidance and discipline, not license and empowerment.

• A school boy kisses a school girl on the cheek and is suspended for sexual harassment. Women kill boys and are acquitted. Disproportionate justice ultimately leads to disproportionate crimes and, from there, revolution.

• Two of the top three reasons given in favor of circumcising American men are, women's health and women's pleasure. The other reason: men reduce their chances of getting penile cancer from less than 0.01 percent to 0.001 percent.

• It's acceptable to celebrate a culture's characteristics, but politically incorrect to know, understand or acknowledge its idiosyncrasies.

• AOL and other online services are to the Internet what an aquarium is to the oceans.

• A few years back somebody wrote about cads versus dads. Cads are the bad boys girls love to date; dads are the steady Eddies women settle down with once they've finished sowing their wild oats. If a man isn't good enough to date but good enough to be a dad, should he mind? Feminists take offense if he does. Why shouldn't women sow wild oats? Men do. Correction: cads do. Dads don't. Fathers and dads should send a clear message to women and feminists: date a cad and get pregnant, forget about marrying a dad. Dads do mind. It's their right to mind, and it's right for them to mind.

• Black and feminist pundits say white men don't know they have power and privilege because (1) white men experience their power and privilege as "normal," and (2) don't know the experience of female and black powerlessness. But by the same token, blacks and women experience their power and privilege as "normal" and don't know the experience of white male powerlessness, either.

• Conservatism isn't fair, it's not enlightened, it's just the accumulation of stuff that works. Societies that adhere to stuff that works survive, those that don't, don't.

• Microsoft is the Studio 54 of the software scene.

• Generally, it's the extremes define stereotypes.

• Some blacks call themselves niggers. They have a chip on their shoulder about being black. Sometimes it is a response to constantly being challenged by bullies. To fight a bully, become a bully. A stupid, self perpetuating cycle of oppression and counter oppression that turns into institutionalized hatred. Institutionalized hatred is both inherently stable and inherently destabilizing.

• In Seattle, many blacks have a game they play with passersby: they see you coming, they look away, step into your path and stop. They don't do this to other blacks; only to people who are not black. Pathetic though this is, it gets worse - the Seattle police play this game, too.

• I treat you with respect, you treat me with respect, we treat one another with respect; you treat me with disrespect, I treat you with disrespect, we treat one another with disrespect. It is a simple equation.

• There is no way women can know how they make men feel about themselves.

• How was Andrew Jackson different from Adolf Hitler?

• Liars and cheaters are losers, though many look like winners.

• The X chromosome is packed with data, while the Y is primarily filler. Feminists assert this means men are deficient. But they ignore that although the Y chromosome does indeed contain less data than the X, it also contains information not found in X. Given that males also have an X chromosome, this means they possess data common to both as well as data unique to males. By feminist logic, which is the logic of the sexist bigot, that would make females deficient.

• Until recent times, survival was never easy for most people. Today, it is very easy for most American women to get survival services and better than survival jobs. Not so easy for American men.

• Some people choose their friends, others choose their enemies; feminists choose their enemies.

• Feminists say women should feel free to "play the field" because (some) men do. That is the moral equivalent of saying women should feel free to murder and rape because (some) men do.

• Feminists believe society should appropriate the resources of all men to support women, and prevent any man from appropriating the resources of any woman.

• Feminists fear the childless man because he has no stake in the future, hence, no reason to support any of the feminist child (read: women-only) welfare programs. Is this why feminists staunchly defend female promiscuity, to minimize the number of childless men?

• The function of marriage, as conservatives have long asserted and liberal factions of the scientific community are finally confirming, has been to assure every man has a stake in the future so he will support long term socially constructive goals.

• Generally, liberals hate biological data except when it proves homosexuality.

• If homosexuality is biologically determined, then heterosexuality must be biologically determined, too.

• Most liberals and some conservatives choose their ideology out of self interest. Most conservatives and some liberals base their ideology on principle.

• When a man falls down, everybody expects him to get back up; when a woman falls down, feminists expect society to rush to her aid.

• In downtown Seattle, well dressed, well fed middle-class children panhandle for money. Who instills this shameless, self entitled piggy-at-the-trough mentality in them?