The secret of a successful courtship
By Jeffrey Weber
Have feminists unintentionally exposed women's secret fantasies? Is sexual harassment essential to courtship success?
Feminist Created Patriarchal Social Constructs
1995 Chicago, IL - As students of the gender wars are aware, theoreticians like Catharine MacKinnon and Andrea Dworkin say that "all (heterosexual) sex is rape." Sexual behavior short of "the act" that are unwelcome are called harassment, and those that are not unwelcome are perpetrations on the socially constructed mindlessness of a willing victim.
A Portland State University flyer was recently produced by PSU Psychological Services and posted around the campus. It was slanted negatively, defining harassment by specifying a list of behaviors in which a young man must not indulge vis a vis a young woman should she indicate such behaviors unwelcome.
Women's Fantasies Key to Successful Courtship
But what if she says, signals, suggests or insinuates the aforementioned behaviors are welcome? A positive mental outlook urges one to afford the upside prognosis -- which may even win a snatch from the jaws of defeat, to wit: on such occasion when the young man has a willing (as opposed to unwilling) young woman toward whom to advance his libidinous protrusions in the stadium of life, he must keep this list close at hand as a map to home plate.
What has the Portland State University Psychological Services inadvertently wrought through this compilation of behaviors? When viewed from the positive perspective of the half-full glass, surprisingly, it creates a "how to" guide for the amorous male.
When he is sufficiently fortunate to have a willing victim, the list recommends the kinds of activities in which he might engage and be likely to "turn-on" said victim.
The feminists in Psychological Services have done a great service to the furtherance of the primordial ritual dance by revealing to young men the fantasies of young women, and straight from the mouth at that -- the things that, when done by the right young man are the proper and correct ways to proceed.
To Do's - behavior for successful courtship with willing recipient
This list was originally promulgated as "Examples of Sexual Harassment" by the Psychology Services Office of Portland State University
Verbal
- Referring to an adult as a girl, hunk, doll, babe, or honey
- Whistling at someone, cat calls
- Making sexual comments about a person's body
- Making sexual comments or innuendoes
- Turning work discussions to sexual topics
- Telling sexual jokes or stories
- Asking about sexual fantasies, preferences, or history
- Asking personal questions about social or sexual life
- Repeatedly asking out a person who is "not interested"
- Making kissing sounds, howling, or smacking lips
- Telling lies or spreading rumors about a person's sex life (i.e., telling good lies and spreading good rumors)
Non-verbal
- Looking a person up and down (elevator eyes)
- Staring at someone
- Blocking a person's path
- Following a person
- Giving personal gifts
- Displaying sexually suggestive visuals
- Facial expressions such as winking, throwing kisses, or licking lips
- Making sexual gestures with hands or body movements
Physical
- Giving a massage around the neck or shoulders
- Touching the person's hair, clothing or body
- Hanging around a person
- Hugging, kissing, patting or stroking
- Standing close or brushing up against a person
When he wrote this, Jeffrey Weber was editor of College News, and Executive Director of the Institute for the Study of Matrimonial Laws in Chicago.
